The Master Weaver

When God begins weaving multiple threads of varying hues and textures, the beauty and design of His tapestries are beyond what we could ever think or imagine. Although we often are afforded a view only of the underside as He weaves – what might seem tangled and senseless, when once we begin to get a glimpse of the surface, we see the amazing splendor and wisdom of His planning.

Yes! Someday…we’ll understand it all.


Poem: The Master Weaver’s Plan

My life is but a weaving
Between the Lord and me;
I may not choose the colours –
He knows what they should be.

For He can view the pattern
Upon the upper side
While I can see it only
On this, the under side.

Sometimes He weaves in sorrow,
Which seems so strange to me;
But I will trust His judgment
And work on faithfully.

‘Tis He who fills the shuttle,
And He knows what is best;
So I shall weave in earnest,
And leave to Him the rest.

Not ’til the loom is silent
And the shuttles cease to fly
Shall God unroll the canvas
And explain the reason why.

The dark threads are as needed
In the Weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
In the pattern He has planned.

– Author Unknown


Are You or Your Boss Debilitating?

Unless you are the CEO, you have a boss. Even CEOs have a board to report to. What kind of boss are you to your direct reports? Would anyone call you DEBILITATING? In learning to be a great leader, it helps to know what bad leaders do so you can avoid those behaviours.


A debilitating boss is a boss who makes his or her employees feel ineffective, inadequate, weak, lacking confidence, confused, and generally under-performing. Often unknowingly, these bosses suck the passion, soul, and energy right out of you by being negative, critical, and confusing. Instead of using your creativity and effort for superior performance, you ruminate about the injustices and unfair treatment at the hands of your boss. These stories of grievances, inequity, and negative emotions spread, expand, and lead to a toxic environment. Any commitment, dedication, or loyalty is wiped out by the Debilitating Boss.

Clearly, Debilitating Bosses leave a trail of disheartened, disgruntled, and disengaged workers behind them.

Did I hear you ask, ‘how then do I manage a debilitating boss?’

The solution is simple. There is an inoculation that can protect you from the contagion of the Debilitating Boss. You have your emotional intelligence competences to build up, strengthen, and repel their impact on you, such as:

Managing your impulses and inoculating yourself from your boss.

Communication and conflict resolution skills to interact with your boss in an effective way, to attentuate his or her impact on you, and to feel you stood up for yourself.

Confidence to prevent your boss from getting under your skin.

Achievement orientation to find ways to get your goals accomplished in spite of a Debilitating Boss.

Initiative to find yourself another job if you are unable to find your desire and motivation again in this problematic relationship.


Coping With Grief

Grief is a human way to deal with the feelings of love that we believe have ended. Another way of defining grief is the normal and natural reaction to significant emotional loss of any kind.

While grief is not the same for every person, there are certain commonalities. During the initial phase, the bereaved person is preoccupied with the deceased, preoccupied with feelings of yearning and longing, and with searching for him or her. While grieving, most people withdraw from the world and turn inward, often reviewing the course of the relationship, including positive and negative thoughts and feelings. People often also review the meaning the relationship had in their lives.

Grief entails a host of painful emotions that can sometimes be very strong and persistent. Strong feelings of sadness and loneliness almost always occur following the death of a close friend or family member. Fear and anxiety are also common. Difficult feelings of resentment, anger, and guilt can occur. Experiencing any or all of these emotions following the loss of a friend or family member is perfectly normal.

Elisabeth Kubler Ross, was an internationally renowned psychiatrist of her time. She was known as a “grief guru”, who pioneered the five stage grief model to help people through different types of loss and bereavement. Those five stages include:

1. Denial -“this can’t be happening to me”?
2. Anger -“why me?”
3. Bargaining – bargaining often takes place before the loss. Attempting to make deals with the loved one who is leaving, or attempting to make deals with God to stop or change the loss.
4. Depression – overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, frustration, bitterness, self pity, mourning loss of person as well as the hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Suicidal.
5. Acceptance – there is a difference between resignation and acceptance. You have to accept the loss, not just try to bear it quietly.

In reality, grieving is usually more of a circular process than a linear one. Some people may not experience some stages and other parts of the process may be revisited before full acceptance of the loss is achieved.

Here are some things to keep in mind about grieving:

1. Allow yourself to feel all those natural feelings and find ways to express them;-keep a daily journal, write a letter to the person who has died, or find a creative outlet.

2. Be gentle and patient with yourself

3. Partners/friends can spend time with your loved one who is grieving and listen, be open and acknowledging the persons own resources and differing ways of dealing with emotion.

4. Any ongoing difficulties with sleep, eating, managing mood, increases in drug and alcohol use, reduced energy which persist after a month, are worthwhile discussing and seeking additional help to address. This could mean encouraging your loved one to talk to a close family member, a trusted friend, a spiritual teacher, a doctor or a psychologist.

The old saying “Time heals” is only true if people actually confront their biggest fears and most painful emotions step by step.

Most Holy Trinity

Most Holy Mystery, Most Holy Trinity… I believe.

The Trinity is the mystery of one God in three Persons: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

The Mystery of the Most Holy Trinity“The mystery of the Most Holy Trinity is the central mystery of the Christian faith and of Christian life. God alone can make it known to us by revealing Himself as Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

“The Incarnation of God’s Son reveals that God is the eternal Father and that the Son is consubstantial with the Father, which means that, in the Father and with the Father, the Son is one and the same God.

“The mission of the Holy Spirit, sent by the Father in the name of the Son (John 14:26) and by the Son: from the Father (John 15:26), reveals that, with them, the Spirit is one and the same God. “With the Father and the Son He is worshipped and glorified” (Nicene Creed).

“Inseparable in what they are, the Divine Persons are also inseparable in what they do. But within the single divine operation each shows forth what is proper to Him in the Trinity, especially in the divine missions of the Son’s Incarnation and the gift of the Holy Spirit.”

– Catechism of the Catholic Church #261, 262, 263, 267