”Never Cut What You Can Untie.” – Joseph Joubert
…because the work of the scissors is rather final, once the cut is made, the object is forever altered. Glue may come in handy to repair a paper item, bringing it close to its original state. However, all women know glue is of no value once our hairdresser takes a scissors to our hair! That cut is final!
How many times do we cut ties, cut people out of our lives, cut our losses, or cut opportunities?
“Cutting” can be extreme, sometimes excessive, and often unnecessary. So, what does this phrase – never cut what you can untie – mean?
Think about the quote on a relational level.
Reflect on a tie between you and another person that is being challenged due to a conflict.
How would you describe the tie between you and the other person?
What is especially important to you about the relationship with her or him?
What happened that you ended up in conflict? What is the conflict about?
How did you contribute to the conflict? How did the other person?
What seems to be cutting into the relationship regarding the conflict between you?
How might you stop the cut?
How might you untie things – rather than cut them – to better understand and reconcile your differences?
What do you need from the other person to keep the relationship intact?
What may the other person need from you?
How will you ultimately tie up things regarding this conflict so that you both will be comfortable and supported?
Never cut what you can untie.
Nehemiah shows us how we should never cut what we can untie. Nehemiah wept over the broken walls of Jerusalem
Reflection: Nehemiah 5:6-13