The Scorpion and the Frog

Have you heard the story of the scorpion and the frog ?

“A scorpion asks a frog to carry him over a river. The frog is afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, both would sink and the scorpion would drown. The frog then agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When asked why, the scorpion points out that this is its nature.”
–Fable of the Scorpion and the Frog

The frog’s charity and kindness is repaid with cruelty by the scorpion…

Some people cannot resist hurting others even when it is not in their own interests. 

The lesson is very clear and often overlooked: people rarely change their basic nature. Yet too often, we make the mistake of ignoring this truth.

We enter into friendships with people who, by their nature, are not suited to be good friends, to support us in achieving our life goals.

We enter into romantic relationships thinking we just need to change a few things about the other person to make our partner perfect. 

We enter into business transactions with people knowing about potential problems but thinking we’ll work around them, or that they’ll act in the best interest of all parties because they’re gaining something from the relationship.

We need to learn a lesson from the frog. People rarely change their basic nature. It doesn’t matter what the rewards might be for acting differently.

People find it extremely difficult to act contrary to their true selves.
I’m not suggesting that you give up on a person because of a mistake in the past. We all make mistakes. But be wary and temper your expectations of that person; don’t expect radically different behaviour, and monitor the situation to protect yourself.

It’s best to seek out friends, relationship partners and employees whose core identity aligns with yours. If you’re an employee, make sure the values of the company match your beliefs.

Life is filled with challenges. Don’t take on more by expecting someone to act differently from their nature.
The sting of realizing this truth can be quite painful.

Scorpions are a part of life. They exist amongst us and you’re bound to face one eventually. You might feel disappointed when you encounter one, but it’s part of life and the human condition. People have flaws.  

Recognise the scorpion within yourself.

We are all able to make choices, but those choices are influenced by our nature. There are things we can do to make our choices overrule our nature, we just need to recognise and acknowledge our own weaknesses. 

Your Life Is Right Now! It’s Not Later!

Your life is right now! It’s not later! 

It’s not in that time of retirement. It’s not when the lover gets here. It’s not when you’ve moved into the new house. It’s not when you get the better job. 

Your life is right now. It will always be right now. You might as well decide to start enjoying your life right now, because it’s not ever going to get better than right now-until it gets better right now!

~ Abraham Hicks

Never Cut What You Can Untie 

​”Never Cut What You Can Untie.” –  Joseph Joubert

…because the work of the scissors is rather final, once the cut is made, the object is forever altered. Glue may come in handy to repair a paper item, bringing it close to its original state.  However, all women know glue is of no value once our hairdresser takes a scissors to our hair!  That cut is final!
How many times do we cut ties, cut people out of our lives, cut our losses, or cut opportunities?

“Cutting” can be extreme, sometimes excessive, and often unnecessary. So, what does this phrase – never cut what you can untie – mean? 

Think about the quote on a relational level.

Reflect on a tie between you and another person that is being challenged due to a conflict.
How would you describe the tie between you and the other person?
What is especially important to you about the relationship with her or him?
What happened that you ended up in conflict? What is the conflict about?
How did you contribute to the conflict? How did the other person?
What seems to be cutting into the relationship regarding the conflict between you?
How might you stop the cut?
How might you untie things – rather than cut them – to better understand and reconcile your differences?
What do you need from the other person to keep the relationship intact?
What may the other person need from you?
How will you ultimately tie up things regarding this conflict so that you both will be comfortable and supported?
Never cut what you can untie. 
Nehemiah shows us how we should never cut what we can untie. Nehemiah wept over the broken walls of Jerusalem
Reflection: Nehemiah 5:6-13  

Sowing And Reaping

Galatians 6:1–10
‘at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.’ (v9)

It is a known fact that what we sow is what we reap. A person cannot expect to pick tomatoes if he or she has only sown cucumber seeds. This is one of the things we can be quite sure about.

Similarly, the same thing is true in life. What we sow with regard to pleasant seeds or bitter ones, the result will be the same.  Here is a simple rule of thumb for behaviour: Ask yourself what you want people to do for you; then grab the initiative and do it for them! If you only love the lovable, do you expect a pat on the back? Run-of-the-mill sinners do that. If you only help those who help you, do you expect a medal? Garden-variety sinners do that. If you only give for what you hope to get out of it, do you think that’s charity? The stingiest of pawnbrokers does that.

I tell you, love your enemies. Help and give without expecting a return. You’ll never—I promise—regret it. Live out this God-created identity the way our Father lives toward us, generously and graciously, even when we’re at our worst.  Our Father is kind; you be kind. (Luke 6:31–36)

Sadly though, despite this great teaching, when it comes to sowing ‘good’ into some people, we don’t always reap the same return straightaway. Sometimes a particular person does not, at the time, possess the fertile soil in which a good seed can grow, neither does the seed always grow immediately. That is why, in Galatians 6:1–10, we are told to keep on, keeping on. We will see results eventually, in all people, if we do not give up. That’s a fact.

For prayer and reflection
Father, I do want to be a giving person, giving forgiveness where necessary and encouragement and love to those who need it from me. Please help me to keep on trying. Amen.


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Don’t Judge Me, You’re Not God


“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation.  It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.” – Paul Coelho

Everyone has their own experiences and views of what is going on. No two people live the same life. We are all different.  We won’t always agree, but if you don’t agree that’s fine. If you can’t disagree respectfully shut your mouth and move on.  Why do you make nasty comments about other people?

I wonder why we’re quick to judge another person’s deeds when we don’t understand their thoughts, their worries, or their needs.  God knows each human mind and soul. He also knows their hearts, so if we’d let God be the judge we might be pretty smart.

Sadly, we are always critiqued, by the people that we know. By the title or occupation, and by the possessions that we show.

We judge by church denomination, and by what we believe. We’re judged by what we spend, or by what we give.  We’re judged by age and gender, and by where we live.

We are judged by our past, and by our education. By the language that we speak, or by our nation.

Everyone is guilty of judging the other!

We evaluate cosmetically. We judge both fat and small. We judge by ones appearance.  Fact is, we judge it all.

Some judge because they are paid to. Some judge intentionally.  Some judge to build self worth, some judge unwillingly.

BEWARE, for there is only One, who evaluates every stain and smudge. Good luck amateur critics of humanity, when you face that Judge!

Don’t judge people until you are perfect yourself.

Don’t judge my path if you haven’t walked my journey.

Nobody has it easy, everybody has issues. You never know what people are going through. So pause before you start judging, criticising, or mocking others. Everybody is fighting their own unique war.


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