The Scorpion and the Frog

Have you heard the story of the scorpion and the frog ?

“A scorpion asks a frog to carry him over a river. The frog is afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, both would sink and the scorpion would drown. The frog then agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When asked why, the scorpion points out that this is its nature.”
–Fable of the Scorpion and the Frog

The frog’s charity and kindness is repaid with cruelty by the scorpion…

Some people cannot resist hurting others even when it is not in their own interests. 

The lesson is very clear and often overlooked: people rarely change their basic nature. Yet too often, we make the mistake of ignoring this truth.

We enter into friendships with people who, by their nature, are not suited to be good friends, to support us in achieving our life goals.

We enter into romantic relationships thinking we just need to change a few things about the other person to make our partner perfect. 

We enter into business transactions with people knowing about potential problems but thinking we’ll work around them, or that they’ll act in the best interest of all parties because they’re gaining something from the relationship.

We need to learn a lesson from the frog. People rarely change their basic nature. It doesn’t matter what the rewards might be for acting differently.

People find it extremely difficult to act contrary to their true selves.
I’m not suggesting that you give up on a person because of a mistake in the past. We all make mistakes. But be wary and temper your expectations of that person; don’t expect radically different behaviour, and monitor the situation to protect yourself.

It’s best to seek out friends, relationship partners and employees whose core identity aligns with yours. If you’re an employee, make sure the values of the company match your beliefs.

Life is filled with challenges. Don’t take on more by expecting someone to act differently from their nature.
The sting of realizing this truth can be quite painful.

Scorpions are a part of life. They exist amongst us and you’re bound to face one eventually. You might feel disappointed when you encounter one, but it’s part of life and the human condition. People have flaws.  

Recognise the scorpion within yourself.

We are all able to make choices, but those choices are influenced by our nature. There are things we can do to make our choices overrule our nature, we just need to recognise and acknowledge our own weaknesses. 

Your Family Is An Organisation


What is the essential mission or purpose of this organisation, and what is its main strategy in accomplishing that purpose?

What is your family all about?  Where are you leading your family? Do you have a clear destination in mind? Do you have a flight plan?

People are willing to invest time and energy into running their business, but when it comes to their family, they think, ‘Oh, I don’t need to do that.’ 

They think, ‘My family isn’t going to fire me, but my boss might.’

Is your family a mission-less family? Who is the spiritual head of your family? Who is the spiritual heart of your family? 

If the family is the most important organisation in our lives, as many people believe, why do we spend so much time at work planning, clarifying what success looks like and how we’re going to get there, and then we come home, we’re so reactive and unintentional about family life? It doesn’t make any sense.

Why not use some of the business tools that help grow your companies at home, and see how your family will turn out.

Your family needs a mission to guide it toward intentional living.

Remember, no other success in public life can compensate for failure in the home. For if you have failed at home you have failed eternally.


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Are You or Your Boss Debilitating?

Unless you are the CEO, you have a boss. Even CEOs have a board to report to. What kind of boss are you to your direct reports? Would anyone call you DEBILITATING? In learning to be a great leader, it helps to know what bad leaders do so you can avoid those behaviours.


A debilitating boss is a boss who makes his or her employees feel ineffective, inadequate, weak, lacking confidence, confused, and generally under-performing. Often unknowingly, these bosses suck the passion, soul, and energy right out of you by being negative, critical, and confusing. Instead of using your creativity and effort for superior performance, you ruminate about the injustices and unfair treatment at the hands of your boss. These stories of grievances, inequity, and negative emotions spread, expand, and lead to a toxic environment. Any commitment, dedication, or loyalty is wiped out by the Debilitating Boss.

Clearly, Debilitating Bosses leave a trail of disheartened, disgruntled, and disengaged workers behind them.

Did I hear you ask, ‘how then do I manage a debilitating boss?’

The solution is simple. There is an inoculation that can protect you from the contagion of the Debilitating Boss. You have your emotional intelligence competences to build up, strengthen, and repel their impact on you, such as:

Managing your impulses and inoculating yourself from your boss.

Communication and conflict resolution skills to interact with your boss in an effective way, to attentuate his or her impact on you, and to feel you stood up for yourself.

Confidence to prevent your boss from getting under your skin.

Achievement orientation to find ways to get your goals accomplished in spite of a Debilitating Boss.

Initiative to find yourself another job if you are unable to find your desire and motivation again in this problematic relationship.


Life Is Like A Box of Crayons

We could all learn a lesson from crayons; some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colours but they all have to learn to live in the same box. ~ Robert Fulghum

Imagine how amazing it would be if every family member worked together to make life a little easier for each other; if everyone took the time to find out why another person thinks a certain way instead of starting a fight. Imagine if family members overcame their differences to live in the same house.

Enjoy this story!

Once upon a time there were 8 crayons. They all lived together in a gold and green box. They pretty much minded their own business and did not pay much attention to each other. Until one day one of them said, “I’m so blue and lonely. I’d really like to meet everyone in my box.” He leaned over to the next crayon and said, “You look bright and cheerful! What colour are you?” Well, I am the most important colour, of course! I am the colour of the sun. People would not get out of bed in the morning if it were not for me!

The blue crayon moved to the next crayon. Hello! I just met Yellow. What colour are you? I am the prettiest colour in this box! I am the colour of violets and pansies. My name is Purple!

The next crayon seemed to be having a wonderful time. She was smiling and happy and invited Blue to join her. Welcome! I am Orange. I’m so glad to meet you! Blue felt very comfortable to be with Orange, but wanted to meet everyone else in his box.

The next crayon was very focused on the previous crayons. When Blue approached him, he began whining. Why do I have to be the colour of grass on the ground? I want to be bright and shiny like Yellow. I want to be beautiful like Purple. And, Orange is so warm and inviting that everyone wants to be friends with her. Blue could tell this crayon was Green (with jealousy.)

Blue moved on. The next crayon was hard at work. He could see the dirt under his nails and on his face. He introduced himself. Hi. I’m Blue. The crayon responded, I really don’t have time to talk. My name is Brown and I’m the only one who works around here!

The next crayon Blue encountered was lying down and seemed to be rather sleepy. Blue said, I’m sorry to wake you, but I’m trying to meet everyone in our box. The crayon yawned and said, Oh, that’s o.k. I am so tired. I’ve been out all night while everyone else was sleeping. Others hardly notice that I am the night sky. Could you turn out the lights, please?

Not wanting to disrupt Black, Blue moved on to the last crayon. Blue spoke, I’m Blue. You are the last crayon I have to meet. Red replied, So you met all the others, huh? I’m so important, “I am so pretty, I’m the only one that works, blah, blah, blah.” I’m so tired hearing about everyone else, I just might leave this box!

Blue calls a meeting of all 8 crayons. I’m so glad to have met all of you! He looks at Yellow. You are important, but so is every other colour. If everything were bright and yellow, we would all be wearing sunglasses!

He turns to Purple. Purple is a very beautiful colour, but there are pretty Red roses, wonderful Orange butterflies, and Green grass in the spring.

Brown, you work very hard. Sometimes it helps to stop and take a break. Have a little fun!

Black, you may feel unnoticed but you are everywhere, and not just in the night sky. Your shadows may be hiding, but we still see you.

Looking next at Red, I know it’s hard to listen to everyone else’s problems. But we are all in this box together. Listen to your neighbour’s problems like they are your problems.

Blue’s meeting was successful! Soon the whole box was happy and humble, not jealous and resentful. They lived together in peace and harmony and gradually welcomed new, different colours. Soon they moved to a box of 16, 24, and an even happier 64! Even though there were many crayons, they were still one box!

From this story, we found that the crayons were so different, but had one purpose – to colour!

We live in God’s great big world! And, we are so different! We can appreciate each others’ differences and all live here together in peace and harmony, like the crayons, because we are all children of God!

Story by Amy Loftis

The Stench of Hatred

A kindergarten teacher has decided to let her class play a game. The teacher told each child in the class to bring along a plastic bag containing a few potatoes. Each potato will be given a name of a person that the child hates, so the number of potatoes that a child will put in his/her plastic bag will depend on the number of people he/she hates.

So when the day came, every child brought some potatoes with the name of the people he/she hated. Some had 2 potatoes; some 3 while some up to 5 potatoes.

The teacher then told the children to carry with them the potatoes in the plastic bag wherever they go (even to the toilet) for 1 week.

Days after days passed by, and the children started to complain due to the unpleasant smell let out by the rotten potatoes. Besides, those having 5 potatoes also had to carry heavier bags. After 1 week, the children were relieved because the game had finally ended.

The teacher asked: “How did you feel while carrying the potatoes with you for 1 week?” The children let out their frustrations and started complaining of the trouble that they had to go through having to carry the heavy and smelly potatoes wherever they went.

Then the teacher told them the hidden meaning behind the game. The teacher said: “This is exactly the situation when you carry your hatred for somebody inside your heart. The stench of hatred will contaminate your heart and you will carry it with you wherever you go. If you cannot tolerate the smell of rotten potatoes for just 1 week, can you imagine what is it like to have the stench of hatred in your heart for your lifetime?”

Moral of the story:

Throw away any hatred for anyone from your heart so that you will not carry sins for a lifetime. Forgiving others is the best attitude to take!

– Author Unknown.